Sometimes life doesn’t quite take us exactly where we planned to be.
Not that I really had a plan as such.
In fact, to be honest, I rarely plan anything.
Ever.
When you have kids, something happens that changes you. All of a sudden you’re identified as “so-and-so’s mum” rather than just as yourself. It takes a lot of getting used to at first.
Sometimes I resented it with every fibre of my being, that loss of myself.
But you get used to it. You become that person. You have more kids, you’re redefined again. and again. and again. With any luck you still keep that core of yourself, but you evolve around it, becoming that “mum” identity.
So how do you deal with it when all that changes again?
When you’re still so-and-so’s mum. But they’re not here with you.
How do you reconcile that they’re still doing all the usual things that they do every day.
But you’re not there to see it.
They come to visit, you can pretend it’s like things never changed.
But then they go again.
And you miss them.
Miss all the silly things they do that make you laugh.
Miss all the hugs, the constant hanging off you that makes you want to scream.
Miss the annoying things that drive you nuts.
Miss them all so much.
I’m thankful for the laughter, smiles and memories from this last week of holidays with my boys.
For the rest of the family who are here every day inbetween, keep me busy and make me laugh.
For the teenager who keeps telling me it’s all going to be ok.
For my other half who is walking with me every step of this journey.
And that tomorrow is a new day. every day.
It’s Thankful Thursday again with Kate @katesaysstuff.

oh i loved this – what a great perspective… I’m glad you got to enjoy that precious time with them xx
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Thanks for stopping by Lyndal 🙂
We had an awesome week!
It must be very hard to see them come and go.
You have a very wise teen.
The first line resonates with me — Sometimes life doesn’t quite take us exactly where we planned to be.
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It’s not easy Trish, but we all know that so many things aren’t. We just have to do the best with what we have and where we’ve ended up.
She’s a teen in a million! xx
Beautiful post. Fairy wishes and butterfly kisses to you and your lovely family. Your teen is right, it will be ok, in the end it always is xx
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Wise words indeed from your teen. I’m glad you got to enjoy that precious time with them <3
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